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Session
Three
I. Old Business
A) What have you talked about since we last met?
B) Is there any Old Business that we need to discuss?
II. RESPONSIBILITIES.
A) Role. Ephesians 5:21-33
21 And further, you will submit to one another out of reverence for
Christ. 22 You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord.
23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his
body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. 24 As the church
submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in
everything. 25 And you husbands must love your wives with the same love
Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her
holy and clean, washed by baptism and God's word. 27 He did this to
present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or
any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In
the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own
bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife. 29
No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it, just as Christ
cares for his body, which is the church. 30 And we are his body. 31 As
the Scriptures say, "A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to
his wife, and the two are united into one." 32 This is a great mystery,
but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the
wife must respect her husband.
1. Where did you get your ideas for your role in the marriage?
2. How will you work out differences in this area?
B. Sexual. 1 Corinthians 7:1-5
1 Now about the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to
live a celibate life. 2 But because there is so much sexual immorality,
each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own
husband. 3 The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy,
which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her
husband. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and
the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife. 5 So do not
deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule
would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual
intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely
to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won't
be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.
1. Is it ever alright to use martial relations to get your way?
III. MARRIAGE, DIVORCE, REMARRIAGE.
A) Who Can Marry With God's Approval?
Everything you do or say should be done to obey Jesus your Lord. And in
all you do, give thanks to God the Father through Jesus. Colossians 3:
17
"You have heard that the law of Moses says, 'A man can divorce his wife
by merely giving her a letter of divorce.' But I say that a man who
divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit
adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 5:31,32
1. Single.
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay
unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should
marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.1 Corinthians
7:8,9
2. Widow.
A wife is married to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband
dies, she is free to marry whomever she wishes, but this must be a
marriage acceptable to the Lord.1 Corinthians 7:39
3. Faithful Divorcer.
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman
is guilty of adultery. The only reason for a man to divorce his wife is
if his wife has sexual relations with another man." Matthew 19:9
IV . Discuss Family Goals
A. Discuss goals.
B. Children.
1. How many.
2. Adoption.
3. Discipline.
a. How did your parents discipline you?
b. How do you feel about it now?
c. Would you do things the same or differently?
4. Some books I suggest for help in child rearing
A) Dare to Discipline.
B) How to Really Love Your Child.
C) How to Really Love Your Teenager.
D) Whatever Happened to Mom, Dad, and the Kids ?
E) Preparing for Adolescence.
F) Bringing Up Boys
C. Pets
1. What kind?
2. How many?
3. Where will you keep them?
4. Will they eat with you?
5. Will they sleep with you?
V. DISCUSS PERSONALITY DESCRIPTIONS.
A. Bride - mother.
B. Groom- father.
C. What problems do you see if these two people were married to each
other?
D. How will you deal with these problems, should they occur?
VI. Four Questions
1. Give me 10 reasons why you want to marry this person?
2. What are you bringing to this marriage that will make it work?
3. What roles and responsibilities will you have in this marriage, and
what roles will you fiancé have?
4. What will you get out of this marriage that you wouldn’t have gotten
if you had remained single?
VII. SHOPPING.
A. What would you like to take from your previous home to your new home?
B. What do you want to leave in your previous home and not take into
your new home?
VIII. Homework
A. Handout.
1. Physical Goals
2. Role Concepts Comparison.
B. Define love.
PHYSICAL GOALS
The main goal in this area of my life is ________________
In order to reach this goal, I am setting the following objectives:
Year 1, _______________
Year 5, _______________
Year 10, _______________
Year 25, ________________
Year 50, _________________
Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who
is in you,
whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at
a
price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are
God's
(1 Corinthians 6:19,20).
YOUR ROLL CONCEPTS COMPARISON
What do you believe about your role in marriage?
1. 1. Strongly agree
2. 2. Mildly agree
3. Not sure
4. Mildly disagree
5. Strongly disagree
Answer Key:
1. The husband is the head of the home. 1 2 3 4 5
2. The wife should not be employed outside of the home. 1 2 3 4 5
3. The husband should help regularly with the dishes. 1 2 3 4 5
4. The wife has the greater responsibility for the children. 1 2 3 4 5
5. Money that the wife earns is her money. 1 2 3 4 5
6. The husband should have at least one night a week out with
his friends. 1 2 3 4 5
7. The wife should always be the one to cook. 1 2 3 4 5
8. The husband's responsibility is to his job and the wife's
responsibility is to the home and children. 1 2 3 4 5
9. Money can best be handled through a joint checking account. 1 2 3 4 5
10. Marriage is a 50-50 proposition. 1 2 3 4 5
11. Major decisions should be made by the husband in case of
an impasse. 1 2 3 4 5
12. The husband should baby-sit one night a week so the wife can
get away and do what she wants. 1 2 3 4 5
13. A couple should spend their recreation leisure activities with
one another. 1 2 3 4 5
14. Is it all right for the wife to initiate love-making with her
husband. 1 2 3 4 5
15. The husband and wife should plan the budget and manage
money matters together. 1 2 3 4 5
16. Neither the husband nor the wife should purchase an item
costing over fifty dollars without consulting the other . 1 2 3 4 5
17. The father is the one responsible for disciplining the children. 1 2
3 4 5
18. A wife who has special talent should have a career . 1 2 3 4 5
19. It is the wife's responsibility to have the house neat and clean. 1
2 3 4 5
20. The husband should take his wife out somewhere twice a month. 1 2 3
4 5
21. The wife is just as responsible for the children's discipline
as the husband. 1 2 3 4 5
22. It is the husband's job to do the yard work. 1 2 3 4 5
23. The mother should be the teacher of values to the children. 1 2 3 4
5
24. Women are more emotional than men. 1 2 3 4 5
25. Children should be allowed to help plan family activities. 1 2 3 4 5
26. Children develop better in a home with parents who are strict
disciplinarians. 1 2 3 4 5
27. The wife should always obey what her husband asks her to do. 1 2 3 4
5
28. The husband should decide which area the husband and
the wife should be responsible for. 1 2 3 4 5
29. Neither husband nor wife should bring their parents into
the home to live. 1 2 3 4 5
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